Tuesday, November 15, 2022

Having Boundaries



That’s why it’s always important to set boundaries. Toxic people will drain you and poison you the longer you hang around them or interact with them. Toxic people (especially narcissists and sociopaths) always push boundaries and never care about anyone but themselves. As long as they feel dominant (through abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, excessive lying, etc), have their selfish needs met, and their ego stroked they will not respect you or your boundaries. In fact, the more you initiate or engage with them, the more poisonous they become for you. And the more you interact, the more they learn your weaknesses and exploit that. 

It feeds their satisfaction in feeling larger than you and seeing you fall prey to their mind games and control as they watch you in misery or conflict. I had a rather unpleasant experience with someone like that and the thrill it gave him as he watched and was entertained by my mind consumed with boiling hatred and personal attacks towards him. As he planted seeds in me and watched it grow and fester. Which I allowed until I finally walked away.

Protect your mental health by refusing to give toxic people access into your life. Let them have the final say. Let them feel like they’re the ones “winning”. You can’t change them. They won’t unless serious consequences befall them but even if they don’t after that, they’ll pay for it in hell.

Vengeance is Mine, and recompense;

Their foot shall slip in due time;

For the day of their calamity is at hand,

And the things to come hasten upon them.-Deuteronomy 32:35

Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.-Romans 12:17-19

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